Unhappy Marriage: Should You Stay or Leave? - Marriage-Wedding
Unhappy Marriage: Should You Stay or Leave? - Marriage-Wedding: "Unhappy Marriage: Should You Stay or Leave?
There's no one simple answer to the question that I'm often asked, 'Should I stay in my marriage, even though I'm unhappy, or should I leave?' It's impossible to give a 'one size fits all' response because every marriage is different.
But there are some general guidelines that you can consider if you're in this situation. Use these thirteen tips to reflect on your marriage, your energy level, your commitment, and the degree of your dissatisfaction.
1.Don't give up prematurely. You have invested time, energy, money, hopes and dreams in your marriage. The only way many people can initiate divorce without feeling unduly guilty is to know that they have tried everything they possibly could to make the marriage better. It just makes good sense to focus on how you can improve the relationship you're in now.
2.Consider your children and how a divorce could impact them. Divorce is never easy. Preschool children and kids who are still in school will be affected in ways grown children are not, such as possible changes in schools if a parent moves, a parent possibly having to work two jobs to make it financially, the loss of daily contact with both parents, etc.
3.If your spouse has an addiction or is abusive, utilize all resources and support groups that offer help. For example, If your spouse is an alcoholic, join Al-Anon, which provides support for family members, and get your teenage children involved in Alateen so they can get the support they need to deal with the home situation. Of course, a top priority is keeping your children safe, so do not keep them in any situation that is dangerous for them.
4.Focus on how you can change yourself to be a better partner instead of how you want to 'fix' your spouse. Wh"